I am—unashamedly and undeniably—a feminist. And this is what I believe.
I believe that women are endowed with the greatest of all earthly honors: the image of God himself. In his sovereign goodness, the Creator has bestowed upon every single woman the tremendous privilege (and the tremendous responsibility) of bearing the image of her Creator. Women are not the fortunate beneficiaries of mindless evolutionary force; they are the intricate craftsmanship of a personal God. The Creator has invested into each woman a full measure of his very own imagination and artistry, and for this we should honor each woman and celebrate the God who created them.
I believe that women were created for men and men were created for women. From the very beginning, God created two sexes in order that they might be joined to one another in the covenant of marriage. Because of this, both male and female possess a natural sense of dependency upon the other. This is not a defect in their Creator’s design; rather, it is a central part of his wise plan. He did not create men to be superior to women, nor did he create women to be superior to men. Each one looks to the other with the ultimate goal of being joined together in a life-long relationship of marriage.
I believe that bearing children is distinct and solemn privilege for women. Every human being has a mother, and every mother is a testament to the uniquely feminine wonder of childbirth. It is neither a curse nor a nuisance to carry a developing human being for nine months within one’s womb and then selflessly to deliver that child into the world. Although there is much pain involved in the process, this is a result of sin and not a part of the originally created order. To bear children is to know a joy that no man can ever experience and to partake directly in the mysterious miracle of creation. And even for those women who, in God’s providence, are unable to bear biological children, the opportunity to adopt presents a whole new set of uniquely feminine privileges. After all, any woman who chooses to set her affections upon an orphaned or abandoned child shows depths of motherly love that can hardly be imagined. So whether it is through “biological” birth or “adoptive” birth, the process remains one that is as dignified as it is feminine.
I believe that women encounter no context which requires a more courageous and noble character than that of motherhood. To carry out the responsibilities of motherhood is to count oneself among the giants of this world—the heroines whose valiant achievements change the course of history. It is no small matter to raise a child, and all other pursuits with which a woman might concern herself pale in comparison. A woman may be a successful doctor, lawyer, or businesswoman, but nowhere does the glory of her femininity shine more brightly than in the home where she cares for her children and nurtures them with love. A thousand professional opportunities will never rival the overwhelming importance of mothering a child.
I believe that women, in the context of marriage, are a visible representation of the church of Jesus Christ. This fact alone confirms the solemnly precious nature of femininity. Women are to be disparaged only insofar as Christ disparages his church. If Christ ever neglects the interests of his people, then it will be appropriate for men to neglect the interests of women.
Therefore, I believe that women are to be loved, honored, cherished, and cared for by their husbands. Any man who disrespects, belittles, or scorns his wife proves that he is ignorant of the inherent honor of femininity. For a husband to love as Christ loves the church is to love at great personal cost, with a constant desire to bring about the well-being of the beloved. As a representation of the church, each wife deserves more affection, care, sacrifice, and protection than any man can possibly offer. Jesus Christ has known no limits in showing love to the church. Husbands should strive to do similarly for their wives.
Furthermore, I believe that men should do all they can to preserve the dignity of femininity. This cannot be done by sexual liberation, vocational liberation, or any other form of social liberation of which we might conceive. In order to preserve the dignity and honor of femininity, men must celebrate their wives, love their wives, honor their wives, and sacrifice for their wives. They must recognize that the responsibilities of childbirth and motherhood command the respect and awe of the world. They must encourage their children to rejoice gratefully in the sacrifice of their mothers, and they must encourage other husbands to honor humbly the magnanimity of their wives. The true wonder of femininity cannot be reclaimed by encouraging women to forsake the very things that make them feminine in order to engage in (supposedly) more lofty pursuits. On the contrary, it must be reclaimed by honoring, cherishing, and celebrating those things which are wonderfully and uniquely feminine.
I am a feminist, and these are the things I believe.